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As You Desire: Truth or Dare (Dance or Don’t Dance)

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     Did you ever play the game Truth Or Dare? I did. I also recall being nervous, intimidated and a little excited by it. My husband and I invented a new version. It’s called Dance or Don’t Dance. Allow me to explain.

Have you ever posed a question to your partner and then got really mad at the answer? Have you asked that fateful question, “Does this dress make me look ...

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Sex Addiction? Fact or Crap?

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So many times now we hear that when someone is “caught with their pants down” they are suddenly diagnosed or claim to have an illness; SEXUAL ADDICTION.

I have always thought this to be a huge cop out… because you NEVER hear of anyone seeking help for it UNTIL they are caught doing it!  I have believed all along that we are simply sexual beings – sex was designed to feel ...

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As You Desire: Our Obsession with BREASTS…

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Bare breasts freak Americans out! Yet like McD’s we seem to want them super sized and we sneak peeks every chance we get! If a woman’s top falls open do you turn away?

We are quite obsessed with boobies here. In 2010, in the USA, there were 296,203 Breast Augmentations performed. Up 39 percent from 2000. The statistic that really got to me was 8,525 of those were done on ...

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As You Desire: Erotica or Porn – Can You Tell the Difference?

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     Sex Sells. We are sexual beings and we love all things sexy. That is why the pornography industry has larger revenues than Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo, Apple and Netflix combined, yet it has not captured the devotion of 50 percent of the population, and the primary decision makers about family spending: women. The pornography industry has made a huge mistake. They have left the needs of women out ...

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As You Desire: Is Testosterone for Boys AND Girls?

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Testosterone has been crowned the king of hormones, estrogen the queen, and DHEA the mother to them both.  However, all humans have the same hormones present in varying amounts that determine our female or male characteristics.  Hormones can determine what the brain is interested in doing.  This is why when the sex hormones are low, your sex drive is low.  When the bonding and cuddling hormones are high (oxytocin and ...

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As You Desire: The Ins and Outs of Condom Use

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If you missed the prequel to this column on condoms, you can click here and read it now. Also, a brief warning, readers: This column includes some graphic images.

Now we get down to the meat and potatoes of condom use.  The “why they do” and “why they don’ts” … the ups and downs, ins and outs.  OK, enough of ...

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When It Comes to Condoms, Size Does Matter!

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Condoms, like people, come in all sizes and colors.  The condom movement has become mainstream in the prevention of STDs as well as a way to reduce your risk for pregnancy.  As I started my research on this topic I was surprised by the history of condoms … for some odd reason I thought condoms were a fairly recent invention.  Boy, was I wrong.

The earliest use of male ...

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As You Desire: The Gift of Sensual Massage

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One of the most important aspects of human sexuality is the physical touch. We kiss, caress, explore through touch and, when in a sexual situation, this is connected to the sex act itself. Sensual massage can be a prelude to or standalone activity of exploration, discovery, enjoyment and connection. It heightens the entire sexual experience as well as teaches patience and communication. In a sensual massage, you must consider and ...

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As You Desire: She Said, He Said – What We Wish the Other Knew!

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The ongoing battle of the sexes. What keeps us at arm’s length or living with frustration? Is it communication styles? Opposing needs? Physical differences?

I recently asked a group of men and women on Facebook to answer some important questions. More than 200 responses came back, approximately 70 percent from women and 30 percent from men. I was impressed by those who were willing to open up with such raw honesty ...

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As You Desire: Swinging It’s Not Child`s Play Part 2

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Here’s the continuation from my last column on swinging, which covered the who, why and how of partner swapping. I am using two terms interchangeably: ‘swinging’ and ‘lifestyle.’ In the ’50s, it was commonly called ‘wife swapping.’ These terms can include swapping of partners, threesomes, bisexual play, fetish exploration, group sex, etc.

I’ve listed questions used in ...

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