NINA HARTLEY:  

I had the distinct pleasure of meeting Nina in January in line at Starbucks in LA during the AVN.  She is a HOOT!  I had no idea who she was, as I am not a porn expert.  But anyone who knows porn seems to know who she is.

I ran into her again while visiting our friends at Adam and Eve booth at AVN.  She was sitting ...

Bare breasts freak Americans out! Yet like McD’s we seem to want them super sized and we sneak peeks every chance we get! If a woman’s top falls open do you turn away?

We are quite obsessed with boobies here. In 2010, in the USA, there were 296,203 Breast Augmentations performed. Up 39 percent from 2000. The statistic that really got to me was 8,525 of those were done on ...

If you missed the prequel to this column on condoms, you can click here and read it now. Also, a brief warning, readers: This column includes some graphic images.

Now we get down to the meat and potatoes of condom use.  The “why they do” and “why they don’ts” … the ups and downs, ins and outs.  OK, enough of ...

Condoms, like people, come in all sizes and colors.  The condom movement has become mainstream in the prevention of STDs as well as a way to reduce your risk for pregnancy.  As I started my research on this topic I was surprised by the history of condoms … for some odd reason I thought condoms were a fairly recent invention.  Boy, was I wrong.

The earliest use of male ...

One of the most important aspects of human sexuality is the physical touch. We kiss, caress, explore through touch and, when in a sexual situation, this is connected to the sex act itself. Sensual massage can be a prelude to or standalone activity of exploration, discovery, enjoyment and connection. It heightens the entire sexual experience as well as teaches patience and communication. In a sensual massage, you must consider and ...

The ongoing battle of the sexes. What keeps us at arm’s length or living with frustration? Is it communication styles? Opposing needs? Physical differences?

I recently asked a group of men and women on Facebook to answer some important questions. More than 200 responses came back, approximately 70 percent from women and 30 percent from men. I was impressed by those who were willing to open up with such raw honesty ...

Here’s the continuation from my last column on swinging, which covered the who, why and how of partner swapping. I am using two terms interchangeably: ‘swinging’ and ‘lifestyle.’ In the ’50s, it was commonly called ‘wife swapping.’ These terms can include swapping of partners, threesomes, bisexual play, fetish exploration, group sex, etc.

I’ve listed questions used in ...

I’d like to clarify something from my last column on sexual orientation. There IS a difference between sexual orientation and sexual preferences. Sexual orientation is defined by whom we are attracted to. There are four general categories: asexual (no sexual desire), homosexual (same sex attraction), heterosexual (attracted to the opposite sex) and bi-sexual (attracted to both sexes). I will ...

Who are you sexually attracted to? What is it about someone that draws you in? What if you lived in a society that told you your sexual preference was unacceptable and you had to, by law, choose the other sex for your relationships? Could you do it simply because it’s what society expects?

Ignorance and fear around the subject of sexual orientation continue to cause great suffering. Important facts and truths ...

The early days of a relationship are a time of high energy, creativity and endless nights.  The pheromones (a powerful sex attractant), or perhaps eHarmony, have drawn us together.  We are on our best behavior … we primp, we fuss, we consider every little detail.  Our seduction dance has begun.  Like peacocks fanning our feathers, we parade around each other, bobbing our heads and making those cooing (or squawking) noises ...